How to speak so people listen to you
Don’t use these lines > He is just trying to make himself sound PROFOUND… TED talks usually lack substance… it’s just smoke and mirrors/fluff
You are forgetting that information should be meaningful… of value… otherwise you’re politely talking nonsense
More like… how to trick people in broad daylight/perform magic with your words
You’re not telling them how to speak so people listen to you… you’re telling them what they can agree about/whatever makes it easier for the audience to think is right/you’re telling them what they want to hear/ you’re making them feel they’re learning something they think is right/ you’re entertaining them
(Everything in my YouTube comments)
Steven Wright (extreme example)
But, did he fail?
Well, it depends on what he expected from this talk
Let’s look at the metrics… this much views, this much likes, most comments I saw are about this
Did he damage his brand?
Now, knowing this, can you imitate what he did (granted you are provided with the ETHOS and other context and also the memory of his speech was erased from the audience) to give the same sort of TED talk and gain millions of views?
DON’T ACT WITH GUILT… YOU WILL FAIL… YOU WILL GIVE UP… YOU NEED TO MATCH YOUR PASSION (NON-GUILT) WITH THE NEEDS OF THE AUDIENCE… IT IS THE MISMATCH THAT CAUSE PASSIONATE PROJECTS TO FAIL
BECAUSE FOR EVERY DEICISON, UNTIL YOU SEE RESULTS, ALL YOU HAVE IS YOUR PASSION (CONFIDENCE) THAT THIS WILL SUCCEED
AND YOU CAN ONLY HAVE THAT IF YOU THING WHAT YOU ARE PUTTING OUT IS GOOD (IF YOU LIKE IT)
WHEN THAT GUILT HITS YOU, YOU GIVE UP, YOU FALL DOWN, YOU GET DEMOTIVATED
YOU NEED TO REFINE YOUR PASSION SO YOU FEEL LESS GUILT AS POSSIBLE
eg. If your passion is to be a comedian because you like to have people think you’re funny (which is a good passion)… and you launch your career… if you don’t have your guilt checked… it will hit you sometimes and make you feel insecure about your jokes… then you can’t perform… now there is no PURE PASSION that you can’t feel guilty about… but when you can convince yourself your guilt is imaginary (as all guilts are) because of the new patterns you are starting to see… then you can soldier on after switching back to the old reality… hopefully.
eg. I have a strong passion for writing this stuff… but even I sometimes I feel insecure about sounding self-righteous/pretentious… then I meditate… relfect.. pick apart those demons I have manifested in my mind/patterns I have created… and destroy them (at least try to) so I can carry on with confidence… because without the confidence for my passion… I’m nothing.. nobody is… it’s all about the emotions/how we feel
And THAT is how you use your passion for your business for success… because otherwise you don’t know if you’re being a fool in love (bullit ball/boss babes) or losing to your negativity (giving up when you’re inches away from hitting the jackpot/diamonds/gold)
You can’t always perform customer obsession to the tee… you can’t realisitcally FULLY adapt the mindset of the average consumer of your brand
You don’t practice calling 911 to make sure you get them to listen (you may have to, if the operator on the other end is a lunatic who only listens to deep voice with tone variations etc… even they would listen if someone calls them saying their house is on fire, that is when their perception of the speaker has changed)
Teachers don’t practice talking to students when scolding/yelling at them
But they do, for a lesson
no guilt vs guilt
No guilt doesn’t necessarily mean you will get what you want
The audience may be judging you (assuming your guilt) in different ways
It depends on the context
But having no guilt will help you carry on/not lose your confidence
Listening implies you want some kind of feedback from them… because hearing is inevitable
Regarding the TED talk, after establishing most of what that guy said is simply not true and all of what he said is misleading, we’ll take a look at this in two angles; why almost 9 million people didn’t realize this guy was talking nonsense, and how DO you really speak so someone listens.